love

When two people meet each other in love or in sadness, for better or for worse, a new universe is

created, one which can solely be experienced by these two, only they feel at home there. In that

universe they can relax and feel safe, two people living under one roof.

Always after a short while it will start to grate and irritate when their safe world is threatened by thoughts, opinions, influences and fantasies. The open connection that was present earlier becomes clogged with emotion and experiences, soon it is closed off completely and replaced by thoughts, ideas and the struggle for who is ‘right’. They no longer live in the actual world any more, a world that can be felt, experienced and shared. Each one lives in their own thought world, one which can only be

fantasied and in which their own ego plays a leading role.

A reason can be found for everything, a cause from the past. What is the use of hiding behind

conclusions? Why are we so persistent, so angry, so sad and feel so wronged? It should be possible to exit this fantasy and to actually share the pain with someone who is able to understand and to comfort.

Thoughts are either persistent or replaced by more new thoughts but just as everything in reality is changeable and perishable. Pain dissolves when it is understood.

By letting go of our thoughts and pain we re-enter reality. It is then that we feel, experience and want to be together with someone who understands us without words, someone who loves us.

The necessity to get our way through manipulation or tyranny evaporates.

Couples reach out for each other in love and sadness, for better or worse, not just once but many times over. As time goes by the home in which they live becomes increasingly familiar, more their own. One glance says enough, one gesture does wonders. Love and pain are the binders and while the pain

dissolves the love multiplies and recreates itself in children and their children…